The Beginning

My story really begins with my Dad.  He was the greatest flawed father.  I say that in the most loving way.  I know if I live up to his effort and love that I will ultimately be a fine father for my daughter.  My Father was married and divorced 4 times.  My brother and I were given to my father in the divorce of my parents, so I have been almost exclusively raised by my father (and myself) lol....  I did spend my summers with my mom, but most of my parenting skills or lack of came from my father.  So my legacy of being a single DAD extends back to my years of growing up with my mostly Single DAD!  My DAD has always been a great provider.  I learned alot and owe my Imperfect DAD for making me a loving but Imperfect Father.

My Idea of the Imperfect DAD:
I personally believe that being the imperfect dad is the perfect way to raise my Daughter.  If I can see my short comings then I have the opportunity to make things right.  Knowing that I will make mistakes bothers me but Hey I am The Imperfect Single DAD.

My Objective
In the end I am doing this blog to realize my mistakes so that I can make life better for my Daughter.  She is my world and now that I am a single dad nothing else compares to her well being to me.  Everything I do needs to follow this paradigm.  I am her ultimate provider and protector so I must remember this when trying to live my life and while trying to raise her in this crazy world.

Knowing MySelf
According to Maslow's heirachy of Needs people have certain needs in life.  If you dont know this theroy look it up.  The ultimate need is self actualization.  Another words the need to know yourself.  This need is the hardest to meet because all other needs must be met.  With all this being said there are times when I believe that I have met this need at least for that moment I feel I have accomplished being who I am ment to be.  If all this is confusing then join the crowd.  The only reason I am mentioning this need to know ones self is to explain my flaws.  Most people dont realize they have flaws unless someone points them out or that person learns from a mistake.  I belive that flaws are the opportunities in life where progress is made.  At first thought that doesnt make sense but just think about it.  Just because it is a flaw doesnt mean you go backwards.  We (especially me) can learn to better these flaws.  If we can get better then we have gone forward from the flaw and not backwards.  The problem with this is that people have to make the effort to make progress.  Learning and acting on what you learn produces a better you.  With this being said with all the flaws I have I should be so far ahead but then again I need to learn and then act on my flaws.