Wednesday, November 20, 2013
How I became an Imperfect Single DAD
Apparently I was the imperfect husband to a most imperfect Wife. Lets call her Jezebel. Since this blog is not about my ex wife Jezebel or my marriage I wont get too deep into why it didn't work. I will start by saying that I by no means wanted to be divorced even though I was the one who filed for divorce. In the beginning of my marriage I made terrible decisions but I tried for the next 12 years to make everything perfect. I came to the realization that whatever I did this Jezebel would overpower all the good I tried to accomplish with her own selfish agenda. Being an imperfect husband is even more complicated when the imperfect wife wants to be selfish and have her own agenda. If you can believe it I negotiated the custody of my daughter. Lets call her my Angel. I am not sure if I am a good negotiator or that Jezebel did not want to fight for the custody of my Angel. The answer is probably both. I sometimes get so pissed off about this, but hey I get Angel and she gets her selfish ways. We should all be happy with this outcome. Everybody gets what they deserve albeit not so fair to Angel. However I will say that Angel's love for Jezebel is unscathed at this point in her life. Angel is only 4 about to be 5 years old. I first split with Jezebel right before Angel turned 3 years old. My last 2 years feels like an eternity, but when I write this down I understand that this really is fresh and Angel hasn't had time to fully understand the situation. I know that in the future I will have some tough questions to answer. I also know that Jezebel will have even tougher questions to answer. I just want to be able to answer these questions without regrets. This leads me to the task of being the Imperfect DAD.
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All dads are imperfect. You might not realize it, but having a negotiated custody for your daughter is actually a satisfactory result. This avoids the ugly drama found in custody cases. I don't know what Jezebel got for this, but it seems you also got a fair deal, getting the custody of your daughter, if that was your primary objective. I hope this means you won't be embroiled with other legal issues with Jezebel, as no one deserves all that hassle in their life. Stay strong!
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